Have you ever been with a partner who got into your head so much that you suddenly realized that you were doing things against your will? Do you sometimes feel that you can not breathe and struggle for breath in your love affair? It is very likely that you are dealing with a big manipulator. Relationship manipulation is a serious problem because it is very insidious. True manipulators know how to twist your words and deeds by making every mistake seem to be your fault. You will feel as if you are losing your mind, as if you have no control over your thoughts, feelings and deeds. And this can last forever or until you realize what is really going on. What is served to you as love is often a classic manipulation. No wonder you feel like you are drowning, you are constantly nervous and secretly unhappy… the question is – are you a victim of love deception? Here are 4 most common signs that will help you understand when your partner is trying to manipulate you …
- You have a horrible sense of self.
When you are under the influence of a manipulator, you start to lose yourself in his habits, words, etc. The manipulator will bring you to a state where you will not believe in yourself. Thus, manipulators use your insecurity and direct it against you. They constantly use your weaknesses to “show” that with their help, you can be better. Your partner constantly pretends that he did not say something, that you did not say something, omits information, turns the truth over, changes the past and thus makes you think that you have forgotten some things. Eventually you will start to believe that you can not trust yourself, so you have to depend on your partner.
- You find yourself emotionally volatile.
Manipulation always starts with guilt. If he can convince you to feel guilty about something you did not do, then he knows that you will be ready to do what he asks of you. This form of manipulation can be ordinary, but also very dramatic and go to extremes. You may hear the words “I can not live without you” or “If you leave me, I will kill myself.” This is a tactic in order to feel fear, guilt and responsibility. Would you really like to stay in a relationship with a partner who threatens to kill himself? The life of no human being should be your responsibility.
- You’re finding your relationships with others are getting worse.
At the beginning of the relationship it is quite fun when you are alone and you think that the whole world revolves only around you two and your love. But the reality is that no one can survive without friends, family… only the partner is not even close enough for a person’s happiness. And he or she refuses to meet your friends and has no desire to introduce you to theirs. At some point you start to wonder if they have any friends at all, because you are “their whole world”. They actively work to keep you away from your loved ones, in order to depend on them.
- It constantly makes you prove your love for him
This is the worst kind of manipulation. He constantly asks you to prove your love over and over again by fulfilling all your partner’s wishes. If you hear the words “If you really love me, you will change your mind about having children”, he is trying to make you feel guilty or ashamed if you do not do something. With blackmail of that type, “if you love me you will do it …” it is more than clear that you are dealing with a real manipulator.
