To love someone who doesn’t value you nor appreciate you is very painful. Self-centered and self-sufficient people are very hard to love since you give them all your love and you try hard, it is never enough, and the more you give the more drained you get for getting nothing in return.
No matter how hard you try to please them,support and love them, they never respect your effort and don’t feel the need to reciprocate and give you their love and security in return. You end up in a cycle which is difficult to endure.
If you have any doubts about your relationship and what you need to do, you need to read these signs. Once you start considering your future without your partner, the chances that everything will be better are very low, so you should start focusing on some other options. Here are the signs that could maybe help you and give you some clues:
1. Lie And Cheat
The worst two things that you could put up with and tolerate. It’s the ultimate indicator of how much they value you. Even after they have lost your trust by lying and cheating, they will keep on doing it. Once they are forgiven, chances are they will do it again.
If your partner cheats on you it means they don’t love, deserve or respect you.They simply don’t care about you and your feelings. That is something you never do to someone who is important to you.
2. Always Taking, Never Giving
Relationships are all about giving and taking. There are some situations where one partner gives more than the other, but all in all it should be balanced. But, if you think that you are the one who is trying the whole time and don’t get anything in return, it is a sign that they don’t value you.
When you love someone you make sure you give them as much as you can to make them happy. If the other party doesn’t put the same effort, it is clear that they don’t feel the same way you do. They will only leave you drained and empty. A successful relationship means getting as much as you give.
3. They Make You Feel Inferior
When they start passing off their issues to you by blaming you or making you feel inferior or insecure, then it is a problem you shouldn’t ignore.
If you tolerate someone who is damaged, mean to you, say things that hurt you or make you cry, you have found yourself in a toxic relationship. This is disrespectful towards you and your feelings and the best thing you can do for yourself in this situation is leave.
4. They Are Unrelieable
You need to ask yourself whether you get all the support form them when you need it. Are you left alone to go through your hard times when you need them to be there for you? If so, what’s the purpose of your relationship if you can never count on them?
Is your partner present at your special moments or do your closest people notice that they miss them? Have you been stood up by them and you have to ask them to be there for you? If they deserve you they will always be there for you.
5. They Are Selfish
Do they do things for you or is it always all about them? You need someone who will do anything for you and not having any benefit from. That is a behaviour from a person who really loves you and deserve you. Make sure you don’t settle for anything less.
If you recognise some of these signs in your relationship, it is time to consider it. Being single is better and healthier for you than having to put up with these types of issues. Being in a loving relationship means loving yourself first.
