7 Clear Signs That You are Being Manipulated by a Narcissist

When it comes to people you do not need in life, narcissistic manipulators rank among the most poisonous people. These are people who take care of themselves and who will not stop at anything in order to get exactly what they want. As such, the narcissist will always selfishly put his needs, desires and feelings first when making decisions and will not hesitate to use people for his own needs. They are ruthless in their race for personal power and success and that is why they are such manipulative fraudsters and it is very bad to be near them. If you have ever had the misfortune of dealing with a manipulative narcissist, then you are surely aware of how many users they can be. But you need to be aware of the tactics they use to deal with the negative effects of their behavior and protect yourself. Here are seven ways in which narcissistic people manipulate and exploit other people.

  • Making sacrifices

Narcissists love to play games, and making sacrifices is one of their favorite games. They get more attention and pity than others when they are led to believe that they are sick, in trouble, and in need of help. When you feel sorry for them, you will probably want to help them, and they are waiting for that. They also use this tactic as a way to justify their horrific behavior, as well as to divert attention from all the negative, deceptive things they have done. That way they make you lower your guard and thus become more open to even greater manipulation by them.

  • They make you feel guilty

They will accuse you of all their bad behavior with all the torment and consequences that it brings. No matter what the facts or the situation, it is always your fault. For their bad day, for the quarrel with the director, for the breakdown of the car, for the bad weather, they will shift the blame for literally everything. It causes them a degree of importance and in a way they are satisfied with it.

  • They use aggression and intimidation

All narcissists use intimidation tactics. They will use everything from subtle, ambiguous threats to outright physical violence to force others to surrender and go their own way. Intimidation is often psychological and emotional in nature. They may try to prevent you from seeing your family and friends or they will always belittle and verbally attack you because it makes them feel dominant and in control.

  • They use triangulation

Triangulation is the condition when the narcissist, you and a third person are involved in a game. Narcissus brings in a third person after convincing you that you are wrong or that you are the problem. Basically, their tactic is to have the third person confirm and support their position, or to turn you against each other and get them out of focus. In addition, when that third person stands by them and supports them, it feeds their need to be loved and experienced as always right.

  • They belittle your achievements

When you first meet a narcissist, he or she usually hides his true nature and leaves the impression of a very charming person. They compliment you and lift you up very, very high, to lower you even lower later. When that happens, it looks as if a switch is suddenly turned on and all those nice words come out the door. They will start to devalue your achievements and pride, all the while trying to regain their affection and satisfy them.

  • They always speak only for themselves

This is a crystal clear sign that you are dealing with a narcissist. They only talk about what is related to them. They have nothing good to say about anything and no one else and they can talk about themselves all day long. And when you finally get the floor and turn the topic, they will slowly turn their focus back to them as if they did not hear you at all. It only matters that those who do, their attitudes and their achievements, put everything else in the background. In this way they feed their ego and elevate themselves in the eyes of other people.

  • They never change

Once a narcissist, always a narcissist. They will continue to behave superficially, manipulate and cheat until their death. There is no cure for them, no therapy can change that. Their problems are rooted and ingrained deep in their personality. When the victim moves away from them, they will soon start looking for a new victim and the circle will start from the beginning.