Sometimes no matter how hard you try to keep your marriage secure and all those positive intentions to stay happy, the relationship can be toxic and damaging. A situation that could get to the point where a bad marriage manages and makes children the victims in the most traumatic way, which can later lead to emotionally inaccessible individuals. Naturally, divorce is becoming more common. However, people are still convinced of the harmful effects of divorce on children. And for their own good and the good of the family, they decide to stay together. Children are forced to be part of their parents emotional tensions and quietly suffer in the hope that everything will eventually be all right. They are doomed to face the dysfunctional behavior of their parents. Considering that children’s pure nature absorbs and easily adopts any kind of behavior, they deeply feel depression and lack of intimacy of their parents.
Continuous tension
The relationship of our parents leaves a serious emotional impact on us that will never fade and gives us a primary lesson for the upcoming life experiences. Naturally, one of the important parts of child development is incorporating and adopting the behavior of those close to them. Constant tension can trigger several emotional, social, and psychological problems in children, such as depression, anxiety or chronic fatigue.
Unstable, disturbed version of yourself
Furthermore, this war between the parents will take root in the child’s mind. It will eat the child’s self-confidence, exhaust the life energy and leave them with little or no peace at all. At the same time, the image of an idyllic family is disturbed, which will leave lasting consequences in the children’s further understanding of the term family.
Fear of intimacy
Unbearable trauma will eventually prevail and develop emotionally injured young individuals who will be scared to get close to other people. Intimacy will encourage all those painful traumas while witnessing their parents dysfunction, so they will do their best to avoid an emotional relationship so as not to be hurt.
Mood problems
A catastrophic marriage produces children who are likely to suffer from serious mood problems, such as dysthymia. If left untreated, these problems can easily lead to all sorts of personality disorders as well as substance abuse. Given that these children abandon optimism and lack hope in the early years, some marriages force children to grow up too fast and lose their childhood.
You have a hard time with failure
Those children who have witnessed the failure of their parents marriage, who have idealized it before, continue to feel that the same failure follows them throughout life. These children have low self-esteem, they were probably asked to make big demands and were reprimanded and belittled when they did not achieve them.
Critical attitude to yourself
I can not, I will not succeed, I am not capable of that and similar sayings will be the most common sentences used by a child who grew up in a bad marriage. Feelings of failure and self-criticism are the result of a bad marriage in which the child is raised.
Fear of confrontation
Throughout life, children feel fear of confrontation. The quarrels of their parents, which they witnessed, contribute to their further avoidance of any confrontation. Whether it has to do with work or something else, they will be afraid to engage in verbal communication to fight for themselves, they will be afraid to emphasize themselves, to express their views and they will be submissive.
