Respect is a virtue that all people should have, and it is taught from an early age. Respect is the emotion we develop toward people who have certain qualities that we value, as well as toward the things that underpin our values. The values they need to nurture and adopt are also important for the development of respect in children. Namely, the child will develop respect for those people and objects that are related to his values. This raises the question of what are the values we want to instill in the child from an early age. What are the things that are important and that we should emphasize through upbringing or what is it that the child should respect?
Parents know how to be enthusiastic about their children’s expectations. They know how to set high expectations, not thinking about the possibilities of children. In fact, children are very simple. If they want something, they will ask for it. If they do not like something or do not get what they want, they will cry. The task of the parents is how to teach the child to behave in different circumstances, which is what he should appreciate, respect and value.
What is important from an early age is to encourage children to go to kindergarten, because almost all children initially refuse and resent the issue, as well as to be encouraged to learn new things. It will be much more effective if you explain in a calm tone to the child why he should go to kindergarten, than to use a high tone. This will only discourage the child and the result you want will not be successful and achieved. You will often read that children are like sponges and that they absorb everything you say and that is the absolute truth. So try to tell them things and communicate with them about the problems and the good and bad things.
What should a child know about respect?
Your job as a parent is to teach your child to show respect. The best example of this will be yourself. Remember that the child sees and hears everything you do and say. Communication with the child and explanations of respect are the best way. Explain to the child that you, as an adult, know how to make mistakes, but you need to teach them that you know and apologize when you make a mistake. Also how a child must learn to say “sorry”. Show respect to the child, listen to him as he speaks to you, look him in the eyes and nod your head as a sign that you understand what he is saying to you. In this way you will show the child that you give importance to his problem and he will realize that you are interested in what he says. He will return it to you the same way the next time you explain that he made a mistake and needs to correct it. You need to teach your child good manners, as well as very powerful words such as “please”, “thank you”, “sorry”. Teach him to be polite and polite in communication, to know when to ask, when to thank, and when to apologize for something. Remember that the child is copying your behavior.
Teach your child to keep his promises
In order to teach your child to keep his promises, you, as parents, must keep your promises. If you promised your child that you would take him to the zoo or buy him his favorite toy, do it. No matter how small the child, if the given promise is not fulfilled, he will remember it. Parents who break promises are a bad example for their children. This further results in repeating the mistakes of the parents, ie the children will not fulfill the given promises.
Relationship with people and relationship with nature
Teach children to respect other people. Teach children to respect family and family traditions. If you have joint activities as a family, teach your child to respect them. Teach your child to respect older people. Teach them that if necessary they should help an elderly person to cross the street, give up his seat on the bus, hang out with the elderly and respect their opinion because they have a lot of experience and a lot of stories to tell. In this way children will develop respect for the elderly. Help your child develop an attitude towards nature, plant a tree or flower together, plant your favorite fruit or vegetable to know its value and why it should not abuse the fruit of nature.
Praise the respectful child
In order for a child to show respect, he must know at what point he did a good job and what he deserved to be praised for. When a child shows respect in a spontaneous situation, you should praise him in order to know exactly what he is praised for. This will let the child know that he has done well and will remember that this is the behavior he should practice and that he is showing respect. The praise should be something like this: “Today he was very decent when he thanked me for the juice”, with that specific information the child will understand that he should be thankful when someone does something for him. It may turn into gratitude for every little thing, but it is important that the child understands the essence and continues with that intention. In this way you will instill in the child the knowledge that his efforts are valuable and that someone notices and respects them.
Talk only when you are calm
As we have already said, children are like sponges and absorb your every behavior. It is very important for the child to set discipline when you are calm. Your reactions are reflected on the child, so when you are nervous and angry it is certainly not a good time to teach the child discipline.